After Math

The best time to prevent a problem from happening is after the problem has already happened.

Just the other day people in our housing society got into a heated argument, almost verbal fisticuffs, over a video circulated over, what else, WhatsApp, of a child being run over by a car within the secure boundaries of a housing society. Somewhere. May have been in our building or may have been in some other. No way of knowing for sure. May have been in our colony or may have been in some other. May have been in our city or may have been in some other. May have been in our state or may have been in some other. Such was the relevance of the video to our society residents. The only certainty, based on the physical features of the people involved, and the car model involved, is that it was recorded in India, if we assume for a minute it was a real video.

It might have been recorded yesterday or it might have been recorded last week or it might have been recorded last month or it might have been recorded last year or it might have been recorded any time before that. The only certainty is that it was perhaps recorded after the time when video recording technology started becoming commonly available, perhaps twenty years back. Moreover, it seems that neither of two main characters in the video, the child and the driver, were known to any of the people involved in the heated discussion. Over this undated and possibly morphed video, with unknown characters, residents of our housing society got into a real-time heated argument, with name-calling and walkouts from the virtual group.

But that is us. We Indians, at least most of us, are caring, sensitive people. We will not shy away when a needless fight, at least a verbal argument, looms, particularly over events already transpired, at an unknown time, involving strangers. We will not turn away like cowards when there is an opportunity of offering homilies that shed a new, well researched light on the situation, like “people must drive carefully” or “parents must ensure children play in safe areas” or “traffic lights should work”. How would we know if they did not tell us? Did you?

And always in a timely manner. Like for a few hours after a child has been hurt by a careless driver. Like for a day after a fire in a building that firefighters were unable to access because of the path being blocked with castaway furniture. Like for a few days after firecrackers have been burnt on a festival adding to atmospheric pollution in the winter months.

We don’t waste time in preventing problems before they have happened, or even offering homilies. How would we squabble over it afterwards if the event was not allowed to happen? Forcing others to discover for themselves that “people must drive carefully” or “parents must ensure children play in safe areas” or “traffic lights should work”.

In the days, months, and most thankfully, years when a child did not get hurt, how many times have we seen residents get into a huff about someone driving rashly inside the society? Or been careful themselves while driving? How many times have we come across a resident chiding an irresponsible parent for letting their young children play without supervision? Or not let their own children play without supervision? Never, right? In fact, some residents of our society wanted to permit holding skating classes for young children on a section of the road. Since an accident had not happened in the skating class in the past as there was no skating class, it was safe to allow an accident in the future. “We just need to be careful.” “We just need to post a guard there.” “The trainer is an adult, he will ensure children are not hurt.”

When an errant driver hurts a child of irresponsible parents, all hell breaks loose with insightful observations that should have been implemented earlier. Mostly by someone else. Like the society management. Or the traffic police. Or the government.

But complainers abound. Trying to fix a problem even before it has happened. Trying to prevent people from living their life. Always complaining.

To all those complainers who complain about overcrowded vans picking up even more children going to school, I say, “Why should they not? Have you heard of any accident involving overcrowded vans ferrying school children in the last twenty four hours? So what if there have been accidents earlier?”

To all those complainers who complain about people blocking corridors with big planters and bicycles and spare furniture and impeding passages for emergency services to operate, I say, “Why should they not? Have you read about a fire breaking out in the last few days where firefighters were unable to access a flat on account of corridors being impeded? So what if there have been instances earlier?”

To all those complainers who complain about traffic cops turning a blind eye and letting cars drive in the wrong direction on roads designated as one-way, I say, “Why should they not? Have you seen an accident in the last week in which a vehicle driving the wrong way was involved? So what if there have been instances earlier?”

In any case, if a problem does happen it is someone else’s fault. Like it was the train’s fault that it  continued to move on the tracks laid out for it instead of getting down into the fields to avoid people standing on tracks to watch a performance near Amritsar. Like it is the government’s fault when devotees rush to the most crowded places in the Kumbh Mela in Allahabad to get the most bang for their holy buck and a stampede ensues.

I feel safe. If I ever get hit by a speeding truck or a car travelling in the wrong direction on a one-way road, or get caught in a stampede at the Kumbh Mela, I know well-meaning people will try to solve the problem by squabbling about it and offering well researched homilies for almost twenty four hours.

33 thoughts on “After Math

  1. The world is full of complainers, who are of the deceptive conviction that through their incessant complaining they can create a better and safer world. Well written piece of sarcasm, Ankur!

  2. When I am telling you about something that might be happening next day, next week, next month, next year, next next – you say I am a complainer.

    When I am telling you about something that already happened until finished last day, last week, last month, last year, last last – you say I am shutting the door after the horse is bolting.

    How can I be doing that – shutting the door after the horse is bolting – when I don’t have a horse, don’t have a door, and don’t also have a bolt.

    By the by, I am wishing my mother-in-law is bolting away. I am keeping the door open only but she is not going anywhere!

    Never mind, I am going to Kumbh Mela and maybe this time god is listening. No no, not this god, the other god. The other other god bai!

    • You caught me out Eric 😦
      My own experience is that windows work better for m-in-law exits. Especially if the window opens out to a rubbish dump 20 floors below.
      Don’t lose your way when you go to the Kumbh Mela. Or Kumbh “melee”. It was scheduled for Allahabad but will now be held in Prayagraj. Same difference! New name only…

      • Thank you, kind sir.

        A Catholic and a sannyasi – Oh God.

        I’m also a Catholic – before that I was a Buddhist, and before that a Hindu. And before that, I was not born yet. I think. The gods became fed-up with my antics and sent me to earth. I planned my life before coming down here. Along the way, I forgot my plans. I’ve been searching for my mission in life. At age 63, I remain confident that at least after the end, I’ll discover my plan.

        By the way, “Oh god” – that’s what my mother said, when she first saw me. I’m yet to figure out what she meant. She is not into using uppercase letters. She was not into the “Spoken, Speech sort of Effect”. In my case, I’ve no effect at all.


      • Hello, Eric! Sad that WP has not yet gotten into providing icons for Very Good, Very Well Liked, Hilarious, So True, etc. Take all these as said!

        As for being a catholic, (that is the case I would use here! – preferring to call myself an Indian Christian, following the RC theology, though) and a Sannyasi, many have said Oh God.

        Generally the People say it in the Wow kind of way, and the establishment has said it in the way that would make most people say Uncle. Only, of course, I don’t!

        Very interesting to read all that about Yourself. We cannot be sure of what our Mothers mean when they say things; but as for me, I say: Thank God for You!

        Disagree Very much with You about Your being/having No effect at all. May be they, the effects, have Hidden themselves Very Successfully from You. Very Naughty of them. But don’t worry. They mean to be Playful.

        You have had Great effect on me. Uplifted me. For that, and many things, Thank You, my Friend! …Regards. 🙂

    • I don’t think I am competent to answer but since you have asked let me try.
      Firstly, while I refer to Indians being a certain way, it does not mean others are not the same way. It could well be a human affliction.
      Secondly, in my view, such behaviour is triggered by anxiety about getting just rewards which fuels a desire to promote oneself at every opportunity and get ahead. It could well be the result of manifest unfairness that we see in public spaces. We say the right things when someone is listening, but we mostly don’t mean them. We don’t mind being two-faced, as long as nobody else notices.

  3. Your complainers sound amazingly similar to our liberal democrat society, always looking for a solution to a problem that may not exist, and squeezing our liberties while doing so. The video sounds a lot like fake news to me.

    • Despite differences of colour, gender, race, etc., humans are quite similar. Hence no surprises there. If they are not looking for solutions to problems, they will be looking for problems for solutions they have. By the way, there was no video with the post. It might have been an ad. WordPress does that sometimes.

  4. That first line is devastating–“The best time to prevent a problem from happening is after the problem has already happened.” I sat straight up in my most uncomfortable chair and read on. I bent toward each argument, seeing the logic and the persuasiveness. I actually had to cancel my recreational colonoscopy–that’s how involved I was.

  5. Here in the US, people get really serious about preventing things after they already happened – for example, if a 10-year-old child is walking alone (on a sidewalk, not the street) home from school, somebody will definitively call the police to have the parents jailed for child endangerment because I guess a 10-year-old child was abducted once.
    Because I think a child choked on a toy once, it is now illegal to sell a candy with a toy inside, like Kinder Surprise.
    There are, of course, exceptions, for example, whenever it comes to guns – children may get shot every day, but it is illegal to restrict gun sales – but maybe it’s also a prevention measure set up after the government tried to take away somebody’s gun once.

    • It warms the cockles of my heart to see that people are standing up for what is right. And it is happening all around the world. Child walking? What were the parents thinking? Could they not give him a mobilephone instead? That way he would not have to rely on someone else to call the police.

  6. I have never known anyone to have less than perfect hindsight. No prizes for that. But how do we get good foresight? No idea. In lieu, we should perhaps try to do the right thing for society, not just our own selves.

  7. One way to have a small degree of foresight is before undertaking any enterprise ask oneself “What are my motives?” If we are people of integrity and character that helps planning but outcomes still evolve do to those “unknown” unknowns similar to the fog of war.

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